Growing up, I was the peacemaker. As the oldest, and the unfortunate confidant of my father, I learned early on to make harmony my greatest desire. Today, it still is.
It’s possible that it’s part of who God designed me to be. Considering how many strong-willed people are in my world, and how much I love them and long to maintain relationship, it is quite possibly is the only way I survive. Regardless of nature or nurture, it’s become a valuable tool. (Evidence that God can take something not-so-great and turn it to something good!).
Occasionally, I have been criticized for my desire to avoid conflict. What I have learned, however, is that it’s not actually where my struggle lies. It is not that I don’t like conflict, but rather won’t engage in dialogue with a person whose end goal is to be right, prove me wrong, or simply verbally vomit all over my tender, peace-loving-heart.
Over the years, I have learned what matters to me – what is worthy of hitting head on, what should be prayed about, and what to simply release. Relationships are worth far more than to create a scar over something petty or temporal. Most offense comes from an opposing filter, anyway. Grace and forgiveness is so much more agreeable.
One of my favorite scriptures is Romans 12:18 – “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” I rehearse this when I find myself offended or hurt. Breathing deeply, I remember that relationships matter, words are eternal, and peace is priceless…
The link below is to one of my favorite songs. Push play, sit back, and give yourself a moment of peace. May you walk in harmony today. Shalom.