A few weeks ago a friend took her son in to the doctor. This particular physician was new to their family, and right in front of her, with no clarification or respect for her potential position, gave her 11 year old child a questionnaire which included questions about how he liked his sexual intercourse and his preferred partner.
We chatted quite a bit about it, and while I would love to think this is an isolated situation, naïveté is far too expensive a place to live in today’s social climate. The idea that parents do not retain full rights and responsibility for raising their own children is clearly oozing into every element of society. Between our politicians, educators, legislators and medical professionals, there is a mindset which allows for family culture, parental autonomy, and freedom of religion to be systematically and irreparably, eroded.
Intentional parenting, especially as a Christian, requires diligence – not only to establish and maintain goals when it comes to the individuality of each child and their personal needs, but to remain savvy as to the rights and responsibilities we are beholden to. Oftentimes we can give more authority to certain positions (lawyer, doctor, educator) than what we legally, or morally, are required to. While many professionals work for us, we often relinquish our decision making and silence our spidey-senses in blind acceptance of the opinions of others. It’s vital to remember, however, that regardless of the information and opportunities presented, we ultimately carry the burden to choose wisely for ourselves, and for our families.
Informed consent …never blind faith.
And if anyone longs to be wise, ask God for wisdom and he will give it! He won’t see your lack of wisdom as an opportunity to scold you over your failures but he will overwhelm your failures with his generous grace. -James 1:5
Trust in the Lord completely, and do not rely on your own opinions. With all your heart rely on him to guide you, and he will lead you in every decision you make. – Proverbs 3:5
Be purposeful. Be strong. Don’t neglect your spiritual growth. Walk in the freedom that comes with remembering we are God-breathed, and that those who are placed in positions of power, skill and authority are there to enhance our lives, to impart into our families. Never to circumvent that which the Lord has ordained. If there is no honor of the sacredness of such trust, feel bold in choosing to find someone willing to partner with you as you train up your babies.
YOU are the parent God hand-selected and carefully designed to raise up your children in the manner God designed them to go. When we remember Whose we are, we are free to fulfill our, and our children’s, greatest potential.