As of today, my three-year-old has finally decided he doesn’t need me to help him get dressed. It’s an important milestone for a child, and one I readily welcome. As I watched him walk out the door after insisting that I was incorrect in my assessment that his shorts were on backwards, I was suddenly reminded of how much that sort of thing would bother me when my oldest was that age.
Parents often worry about things that in the grand scheme of things, truly don’t matter. We can often waste precious energy, and damage tender hearts, in our pursuit of perfection.
How often does our need to succeed or perform affect other areas of our lives? Those we love? And do we extend our personal expectations for our own lives onto those around us? Oftentimes disappointment occurs or feelings are hurt when others don’t live up to our personal standards. A challenging feat for those working hard to live up to their own.
Do those socks on the floor really matter? Is it worth creating tension because your son’s desk is messy? Is your coworker’s irritating personality trait worthy of criticism that stunts their capacity to overcome a weakness they probably already recognize?
Try releasing someone today. Or yourself. Create margin and an environment where grace can come, and where people can grow into their own. But please, do remember to put your shorts on with ties in the front!