For those of us who are familiar with the “Proverbs 31 woman,” (Proverbs 31:10-31) I think I can confidently state that we all can find her a bit intimidating at times. This chica has it all together and then some, and I will admit that there have been seasons I have my level best to achieve such greatness, only to fall flat upon my face.
When I was younger I envisioned her doing ALL the things every day, and I felt as though just ensuring that my toddler survived the day (or my infant through the night!), was all the effort I could muster. As I was making breakfast and washing the dishes as I went, refilling the butter plate, feeding the cats, rotating the laundry while alternating bites of toast and sips of coffee, I realized that I AM a Proverbs 31 woman.
Every. Single. Day.
From the moment most of us ladies awaken, the game is on. Shower. Feed the pets. Clean up after the pets. Make breakfast and lunches. Throw on some mascara and style hair. Make the bed. Drive the kids to school. Run to the store to be sure we don’t run out of TP or batteries or favorite snacks. Plan dinner. Thaw meat and do prep. Work on the computer for a bit with my “real” J.O.B. Send a note of encouragement. Do some lunges. Pay a bill. Update the calendar. Check on the hubs to see what he needs. Make dinner for a sick friend or send money to a favorite charity. Pick up kids. Drop off dinner …
Sound familiar? If so, then you too, are a Proverbs 31 lady!!
I think what I love most about this particular passage is that it communicates so effectively just how powerful and capable women are. It’s not a mandate to be perfect, but rather a beautiful picture painted by a Heavenly Father who acknowledges that what we do, day in and day out, matters. When we honor the work of our hands and intentions of our hearts, in the manner of which God Himself honors such faithfulness, we find that we, like she, laugh at the days to come and live from a position of joy and hope, with a lightness in our steps and kindness on our lips.
Oh joy to the world!
Take a deep breath, my sweet friend. Read this and find the parallels in your own life. Honor gently what you want to work on differently, and release the burden of perfectionism. When God made you, He broke the mold, my sister.
10Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates.