A person close to me chose to have an affair during their first marriage. The saddest part of any divorce is that kids are always callateral damage. Later, career choices and a desire to pursue their own personal dreams and desires, took this person further and further away from their ability to be an active and present part of their children’s lives.
As the kids have grown older, it’s become increasingly difficult for this parent to fully own their decision to not be more participatory. Now that the children are nearly grown and have created their own lives, it’s created a bit of a chasm. And often tension.
I always tell my kids that every decision comes with a consequence – good, bad or indifferent. It’s why choices as we mature become increasingly difficult; as we grow in our understanding of this, we are sometimes forced to pick the “lesser of two evils.” It’s not always easy to make a list of pro’s and con’s and not like any of the available options.
We can, however, fully possess our choices, and walk in grace as we accept that which comes with each path we take.
Wherever you are today, walk confidently, choose wisely, and redirect if necessary…