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A wise friend shared a message last night. At one point, she made reference to having been corrected by someone who has permission to speak into her life. This person is a trusted friend; one who is committed to seeing her succeed, in every area of her life. As followers of Christ, our lives are not divided into neat little categories, but rather our spiritual walk is a part of every other facet of our daily lives.  I started thinking about who speaks into my own life, and who has given me permission to walk with them in their journey.

I think it’s important to have criteria when considering counsel. As we mature, we move away from gossipy relationships, and from those friends who would speak only fluff into our situation, to those who would speak life and godly counsel. We share less, and what is shared is done from a perspective of, well, needing perspective. I’m not sure we ever get it right all the time, but we do our best to make choices that propel us towards those relationships that continue to perfect us.

Today consider who you should be sharing with. Who you should be listening to. How and what you are speaking to others. Many years ago, a good friend and I would meet for several hours every other week to pray. It was a precious and deeply valued time. One of our rules was that if we were really struggling with something, we could have a 5-minute pity-party, and then it was time to bring God back into the picture and put things in perspective.

Relationships add value to our lives, and one of the ways they do that is by helping us to grow towards our full potential and purpose in this life. It’s wisdom to share certain conversations with only those who will steer you in the right direction and speak life over your situation. Proverbs 27:9 – Oil and perfume rejoice the heart; so does the sweetness of a friend’s counsel that comes from the heart. Ah, wisdom.


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