Driving home in sweet solitude from the high school this morning, I meditated on the things that have taken up residency in my mental space recently. I have begun to struggle with some anger and frustration that I am not quite sure what to do with. As with all people facing seasons of trial, we operate in either fight or flight mode. I’m really effective in the midst of crisis, but seem to fizzle out and fall apart after its resolution.
It’s important to address those things in us that aren’t beneficial – like a negative outlook or quick temper. No matter how justified it might be, we can tend to add unrelated circumstances and relationship struggles to our current frustration – a little like the snowball affect. Before we know it, our lives have spiraled into a much bigger mess than where we started.
And it’s mostly in our heads.
Guys are really great at compartmentalizing – a blessing and a curse, to be sure. But women tend to blend everything together and can struggle with separating and analyzing objectively. I think it’s why so many of us struggle with feelings of depression or being overwhelmed – we let our thoughts and emotions roll into one big ball of frustration and overtake our clear thinking.
Two scriptures come to mind –
2 Timothy 1:7 – For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
2 Corinthians 10:3-5 – For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war in the flesh: For the weapons of our warfare (struggle) are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. Casting down imaginations and every high thinking that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ (His love, grace, peace, power, authority). *Notes in parenthesis mine*
People and situations aren’t our enemy – we are. Our own thoughts, perceptions, misinterpreations, pride, insecurities, fears and failures… We can rarely change those around us, and seldom do much more than modify our situations, but we can always work on ourselves.
Today I am working on my self control – taming my thoughts and focusing on what I should.