Ezekiel 5:7 The Message (MSG)
“Therefore this is what God, the Master, says: You’ve been more headstrong and willful than any of the nations around you, refusing my guidance, ignoring my directions. You’ve sunk to the gutter level of those around you.”
I don’t always know what I want to write about every day, so oftentimes I will pray and ask God what to write about and He will bring to mind something that I have recently pondering or experiencing. Other days, like today, I will ask for a scripture. Sometimes it doesn’t work, to be honest, and I will read something that makes no sense to me at all. Today, however, Ezekiel 5:7 came to mind and it absolutely fit a situation that just happened earlier today with my 12-year-old.
Driving home from school this afternoon, I was speaking with her about choosing to shift her perspective with regards to a particular issue, and my child, who not so long ago found my words encouraging, now seems to find my opinions less than savory, and slightly irrelevant in her newly discovered middle school brilliance.
One of the most challenging parts of the parent-child relationship, in my experience anyway, is the settling of who is actually in charge. From the moment that our little people realize that they are unique individuals, independent from us, the battle is on as to who will “win” the in’s and out’s of daily life. Two and three year olds tantrum, our 7 and 8 year olds argue every possible point of contention, and teens…well, teens have the greatest struggle of all as they begin to perceive the weight of having to develop into self-reliant adults who will very shortly be required to be self sufficient. Meanwhile, their bodies are going through the same developmental stage as those delightful three year olds, so they vacillate between the desired freedom before them, while still pushing boundaries in order to reaffirm that their parents are still there to catch them when they fall.
Even as adults, we often have a more rebellious bent when it comes to what we think is best for our lives, very much like our children. And yet, as we know, our wisdom trumps theirs. Likewise, the God who designed us has a unique perspective as to what each of us needs at any given time. He sees our lives laid out before us, sees the pitfalls, knows which trials will shape us, is aware of our full potential, and promises to bring good out of ALL things for those of us who love Him.
What is it within us, then, that strives to get our own way??
To be honest, I think part of our soul recognizes we are designed in His image, and just like Adam and Eve in the garden, we really just want to be in charge; despite any potential consequence. Similar to my 12-year-old, there is something within us which banks on the knowledge that God will have our back.
In spite of our disobedience.
I often tell my kids that consequences only get bigger the older we get, and it is my job to teach them to trust my leadership so that in their adulthood, they will trust God’s. Regardless of how you were raised, it is still possible to learn to be obedient, to listen to wise counsel, to walk in His path, and reap the benefit of living within His loving boundaries, grace and plan for your unique life.
God has called you to bigger things than where you are, my friend. Psalm 139 in the bible tells us that we are each fearfully and wonderfully made. We were known by Him before we were even conceived. With a start like that, you can walk in confidence that where you are is not where you will stay! Part of the journey, though, is knowing who to follow, and I can think of no one better to lead than the One who created me.
Will you set aside your pride and follow His gentle leading? I promise where you are headed is worth it.